Who is Going to Stop Us?

I saw a quote earlier today that went something like this, “the only one who can stop us from reaching our goals is ourselves”. That really hit me. I have attempted this weight loss for years and every time I stopped it was because I wanted to. Nobody made me stop. I did not have an injury that prevented me from working out. I was not being force fed fast food. The car did not break down so I could not get to the grocery store for healthier choices. I just, plain and simply, stopped. I stopped doing what I was doing toward a healthier and fitter me. Am I my own worst enemy? Do I not want to succeed? So, how do I keep from stopping? Well, Buddyslim is a huge part of that. I need to keep a focus on my goal and what I really want. This year as I turn one year older do I still want the struggle to be in front of me? No, I want it over. Enough of this battle that has claimed too many years of my life. I can do this. I have proved that over and over with hard work. I just have to remove that stop sign.

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Holiday Eating

With my favorite meal of the year coming up I have been worried about avoiding the gain through the holidays. I would like for this to be the first year I have LOST weight during the holidays. My previous holidays would involve pigging out from Thanksgiving through New Years. We need to break it down into just that day and that meal and how we will handle it. I found some insight to that on Dr. Mercola’s site and have copied that information for you all below.

Plan Your Holiday Eating List and Check it Twice

If you fail to plan, you plan to fail — this adage applies to many walks of life, but especially to maintaining the proper diet.

In addition to finding the right program, successful weight loss also boils down to good planning; more than any other time of the year, planning is paramount during the holiday season. You need to establish a specific course of action for not only what you intend to eat, but what you will do in those specific holiday situations that often make you feel compelled to eat.

Before heading to that party, for instance, you should plan exactly what you are going to do and say when you are offered food (and drink) that you should not eat. Before heading to the relatives’ for dinner, you must be prepared with polite but firm methods of rejecting Auntie B’s famous triple-fudge pie. Yes, Auntie B and everyone else will say, “Oh, come on, it’s the holidays, just this one time…” But as you know by now, it only takes that one time.

You need to plan what you will eat instead, and in what quantity. In fact, it helps most of my patients to write their plan down on paper and carry it with them, and even refer to it as a reminder (and motivator) during the gathering. The more concrete the plan is to you, after all, the more likely you are to stick to it.

Finally, wherever possible without becoming a Scrooge, plan holiday activities that are not centered on consuming food. There are many old traditions that work well, such as caroling or ice-skating, and certainly many more activities that could become your new traditions.

Be Like a Reindeer and Graze

Eat right, but eat more often. Instead of three big meals per day, you should eat smaller portions of something healthy about two hours, ideally consuming about six mini-meals per day. This gives your body a better ability to digest and will leave you feeling satisfied, not hungry, throughout the entire day.

One of the worse blunders that people commit during the holidays is to “save their appetite” for the big meal they know is waiting at a forthcoming gathering. Even if you haven’t yet adopted the grazing advice above, eat a healthy mini-meal before you head to the office gala or family festivities. You can appreciate small portions of Mom’s famous stuffing just as much as the massive portions, and you’ll especially appreciate what the scale tells you a few hours, days and weeks later.

In This Season of Hope, Stay Positive!

The Boy Scout’s motto — “Be Prepared” — is highly applicable when it comes to maintaining a diet during the holidays. Beyond planning what you will eat, and what you will say when offered something you shouldn’t eat, it is important to prepare yourself on a psychological level, especially with all the temptations during the holidays.

For starters, it is important to focus on the desired outcome of your diet when confronted with no-nos like gooey cookies or negative emotions such as “I’m meant to be fat and unhealthy.” Picture yourself thin. Imagine yourself with an intensely higher amount of energy. Envision yourself getting far fewer colds and headaches, and really, fighting major diseases and living longer. These are the very real results of the healthy diet you are trying to maintain, and well worth the effort.

Prepare yourself for temptations, as they can’t all be avoided, by preparing to divert your attention back to the desired outcomes of your diet. Don’t dwell on the things with negative outcomes, no matter how good they might taste on the spot. Don’t cater to the feelings of self-deprivation, and don’t allow yourself to think, “I’ll never be thin anyway,” just to give yourself an excuse to eat that pumpkin pie.

Instead, devote your energy to focusing on how wonderful you will feel for having made it past the pie, past the entire dinner, and past the entire holidays with little or no cave-ins. Focus on the positives, and positive things will result. And if you buckle once and violate your plan for avoiding the holiday weight gain trap, don’t use that as an excuse to keep failing. Re-focus on your outcomes and get back on the plan.

Works or it Doesn’t

This was a project I had for my week. It really caused me to stir up some good thoughts toward progress so maybe it will be helpful to you as well. It was to put down what works and what does not and then come up with a plan. This was what I came up with.

Does not work:

Collecting diet books
Beating myself up when not “perfect”
Soothing feelings with food
Not having a plan
Feeling sorry for myself and wasting thoughts on why “I can’t lose weight”
Giving up after major “off-diet event” (family dinner, church potluck)
Counting calories
Never eating what I want
Occasional walks
Impulse fast food

Does work:

Being accountable to and having support from others who know the struggle
Getting right back with it after a bad day
Keeping a mental goal in mind (image not number)
Avoiding refined carbs for the most part
Increasing veggies, fruits and healthy foods
Portion control
Have food every 3-4 hours
Exercise with heart rate monitor and record calories burned
Planned healthier fast food
Cooking most meals even if I don’t “feel” like it
Acknowledging and enjoying small behaviorial victories

My plan is to continue with what works and especially tell myself the truth!

Calories or Carbs?

I have been struggling with staying on diet over the weekend and am curious if you are doing low calorie or low carb. I find, having prediabetes, that I lose better on low carb. I like to stick with real foods and not artificial ing. so not into the diet foods. Anyway, thinking of starting to count calories, but still with low carb in mind. Anyone else have thoughts on these things? Many of you have had great success and I have struggled with this for years. So, I figure you have some great advice.

Saw Matt Hoover Speak

Last night I went to hear Matt Hoover speak. For those that don’t know, he was the Iowa wrestler who had let himself go and then ended up winning the second season of the Biggest Loser. In the beginning I was thinking that it was not what I was hoping he would talk about. I wanted some more insights into losing weight. He said it was exercise and nutrition. He talked about his journey. How he would say to his friends every week that on Monday he was starting his diet and they were all, yeah right. He said people are more fearful of success than failure. If we succeed people expect it from us. Also we have to stay successful and not go back. He talked about how we can be an inspiration to others. The illustration  used was of a very obese man exercising every day in Seattle. There you cannot let the rain keep you from working out or you never will. He watched this man as he drove by for a year. This man became fit in that year. Finally, Matt pulled over one day and told him he had been watching him and what a great job he had done. These were some of the things that stuck out to me and maybe I will think of others to post later. Let us avoid failure and be dedicated to our goal of fitness.

Back on Target

Ok, I am through beating myself up. Fortunately, I have the support from this site to help me get my head on straight. As I have mentioned before, I had a small gain .8. So, rather than just continue doing the right things I let it discourage me and ate what I wanted and skipped exercise for a week. So, now the gain is much more. This means I am starting over on the 20 pound challenge. I had thought about quitting the challenge, but I know that would just add to my discouragement. Today I am back to making wiser choices. Either I want to stay fat or I will do what it takes to make progress. My biggest battle is in my own mind.

Self Sabotage

Well, tomorrow my weight is due for the challenge and I have been doing nothing toward reaching it. Started the decline when I gained weight after burning over 4,000 calories in a week. I know from experience, had I just continued doing the right things, I would have had a good drop sooner or later. Instead, I continued to sabotage myself. This has to change if I ever expect to get the weight off. Why is it I can want something so badly, but when I start to make progress, do the exact opposite of what I want. Does anyone else have a history of overcoming self sabotage? I would love to hear your ideas and what worked for you. I need the support of my buddies to keep on the right path.

Guess it Was a Pity Party

So, I worked harder than I have for years burning calories and went up .8 of a pound. Due to the discouragement I gave up for the last two to days. Now, most likely, the scale will be up higher next week. Seems if I don’t have encouragement that it is working I just give up. Have to get past the “pity parties” and just keep doing the right things. I am so tired of the struggle with this flab. I remember the fitness from being a brown belt in karate and wonder how I could let it all go. When did I decide the “better” way to deal with stress was eating? I did walk and burn 335 calories yesterday only because I made a promise to my husband to do it. He wants me to succeed because he knows thats what I want. Why can’t I seem to convince myself it is what I really want?

Killer Boot Camp

I got a bunch of exercise dvds from the library. One is a Marine with a boot camp routine. It is broken into circuits and the first one is geared toward beginners. I needed a break from the hard walking I have been doing and did circuit one on Friday. So many times I thought I can’t continue. I was so wiped out. I do not think it is really a “beginner” workout. Maybe if you are a Marine. My calories burned for the week are really high since I spent hours being lost on trails in the woods Monday. We had a good clip on our hike and I found calories counts charts that give calories for hiking and walking and took one in between so it would not be the highest count. So added to the other things I did I burned 4,036 calories this week. Even so, I fear the scale tomorrow am.

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